June 27, 2019: Thanks to all who joined us for our Sail into Summer event! We celebrated at Marina Village, enjoying cocktails, small bites, live 
May 19, 2016: We were so happy to host A Night in White again! This year, we joined it with our Day on the Greens Golf Tournament for a
Cindy
Today, as I sit by San Diego Bay, I know I am free. As I walk by the water with blue July skies above, I sense—overwhelmingly, that I am no longer in bondage. I am a free agent in life. I can choose or refuse whatever comes my way. I can go where I want to go, I can do what I want to do, and I can make my own plans and decisions.
To feel this much freedom is a break-through for me. It is that and so much more, after coming out of 21 years of bondage. The bondage was definitely a mental one, one that had a tight grip on my thinking process. I existed in a low-quality state of life, accepting my circumstances as my destiny or rationalizing them as “somewhat normal.” This was an adapting escape mechanism that kept me from looking at reality as it was. It was an elaborate and intricate thought process that “normalized” the tyranny and oppression I was subjected to everyday.
This brainwashing and mind control is what makes women stay. This accepting of life as it is—even when they know there is a better life out there for others—is deeply rooted in the victims. They figure, “that’s for them—not for me,” or “maybe someday it’ll change,” holding on to hopes that do not exist (even with God on their side). It’s also fear of the unknown that keeps them there. Thoughts like, “How will I ever escape from him, his control?;” “How will I support the kids and myself?;” and “How will I get a job?” keep them frozen in fear. It’s a “he’ll never let me go,” mentality. That is why I stayed and that is why they stay.